Thought Blast From the Past!! :D

Let’s relive the past twenty five years Papa; through a short recap of my thoughts!! 😀

Yawning away to glory; slowly the eyes open! I stretch the brand new hands, legs and contemplate the first thoughts ever;

“Hmm… so this is it. I have been planted here by the Almighty.”

“Not bad! But it’s getting a little boring.  If only there was a television, toys and a mall around here, it wouldn’t have been so difficult to pass time.”

“No social networking medium to post my selfies and catch up with fellow fetuses… Hmm! I think it’s time for me to move out. I am too old now….”

And the push begins… slowly the head comes out!

“Woaah… What is this world?”

“Oh my! This is overwhelming. I think I want to reconsider the moving out thing.”

“Hello anyone, can you please send me back inside?”

“Hello! Hello…Oh nobody understands my language. Hello! Hello… What the Baby!!”

“Okay now, here comes the cranky tears!”

After a few minutes;

“Why have they covered me with a towel? Don’t you have a blue frock or something?”

“And who is this man standing next to me smiling away without a break. What is he so happy about?”

“Is he Mom?”

“Not sure! But he is the first person to console me and he is holding me so nicely…I think I am falling asleep!”

“I am so comfortable… I am slowly feeling at home…!”

“Let me just look at him again… He is still smiling…! ”

“So he is either a model for the toothpaste commercial, or wait, he may just be my Dad!!”

“Hmmm… so sleepy… so secure…”

“Yes, he is my Dad, my Papa!! Hmm… Yawn Yawn!!”

“You are my Papa… Thank you for welcoming me in this scary world.”

“Thank you for telling me through your silent smiles that everything is okay and there is nothing to worry about.” “Okay, so I am sleepy again. Yawn! Yawn!”

A few months later;

“Too much of prattling, I must say! There is constant Ole le le le, Ale le le, Pyaaru, Chintu, Pintu, and so much else going around here!”

“But, why am I enjoying this?”

“I cannot let go of my smile and sometimes I just break out laughing on inane things for instance; just the other day, my Papa picked me up on his shoulders and started dancing. This could be so kiddish to others, but not for me. At first I was so worried that I would fall especially when my mummy brought a camera in front of me but slowly I realized, I was laughing and enjoying.”

“Yeah, it was so much fun.”

“My Papa has also given me a teddy bear and some other toys but they are most fun with Papa around. He makes everything so much fun.”

“I am loving this new world where I don’t have to worry about my food, hygiene and especially, entertainment.”

“Thank  you Papa for introducing comfort, security and enjoyment in my life. I couldn’t have been more carefree and loved if you weren’t around.”

Few more years pass by;

“Mummy is preparing my Tiffin box. Who will make my ‘choti’ (plait) now?”

“Oh look, Papa is already ready with the comb and oil.”

“Yeah… my hair is done. It looks great.”

“He definitely has become my exclusive morning hairdresser for a few years now.”

“He is also watching ‘Courage the Cowardly Dog’ with me… and ‘Popeye’ too.”

“Okay so I am ready now and look; I have perfectly polished shoes… all ready to go to school!”

“He comes so late in the night after work. Still he wakes up early, voluntarily, to do all the nanny jobs for me. That too, with a smile! How does he manage that, everyday?”

“How is he able to take care of me in spite of a hectic work schedule and how is he always there whenever I need him?”

“He surely is a Superman Papa… Superpapa, perhaps trained in fatherhood (I am guessing a PhD in Fatherhood or something!)”

“Thank You Papa for being there with me and taking such wonderful care of me. Thank you for smiling and laughing with me in spite of hectic lives at the office and otherwise.”

After a few more years and much more kilos on me;

“I have been going out so much. My Papa takes me out for drives, ice-creams, dinners and vacations.”

“I am exploring so many new places and people. However, I am still not exposed to the darker side of the world.” “My Papa protects me from all the ill, gloom and negativity.”

“He leads the family and stands up strong when faced with an issue; so much so, that I don’t even realize the presence of it.”

“I move freely while he secretly fights all the odds.”

“How strong, fearless and loving one has to be to adopt this role of a timeless protector!”

“He is not even armed. He is just brave… very brave!”

“Thank you Papa for protecting me from all the bad in the world. Thank you for showing me the good in the world. ”

A few more years and a swift increase in height later;

“In spite of loving parents, being the only daughter can be a bit boring especially when my friends go on and on about how their siblings trouble them, how they play with each other and also how they hate each other.”

“May be I am missing something!”

“I see my Papa noticing and smiling.”

“I am aware that he knows what I want more than I do.”

A few days later; one day, I open the door;

“Oh my god! Look who has joined the family… my german shepherd, Radha!”

“Awee… it is so cute! I love her!”

“Again, I cannot stop myself from smiling. ”

“What was I ever missing before, fail to remember! I am so happy.”

“Look at my Papa, he is so happy to see me happy.”

“He really addresses my every feeling… happy, sad and confused.”

“He makes everything bright and positive.”

“Thank you Papa for noticing my every chuckle and frown. Thank you for understanding the unsaid and giving me a childhood so happy that I can relive it all over again!”

Few more years later with a serious change in shape and psyche;

“So the hair is mostly left open now…! The visits to the beauty salon have increased…!”

“Peers have expressed their presence and so have the books…!”

“Irrational desire to grow up is getting stronger by the day. Defiance as well as idealism dominates. Ironically I do not want to be considered as a child now…but this hasn’t fazed my Papa, ever.”

“He never points out my erratic behavior, my mistakes (the Mum is the in charge here!!) but he teaches me to grow through his own unique way.”

“He is slowly enlightening me with his worldly wisdom which is helping me to evolve and mature. He is making sure that I have my freedom and that I also understand how to use it correctly.”

“However, all the learning is being done in the comfort of my house where I don’t have to worry about my air conditioning needs, my fancy dinners, my clothes, fees, classes… and so much more.”

“It is easy being idealistic when you are away from the realistic, isn’t it!”

And the teenage goes on; 

“Shall I become a Doctor? Teacher? Performer? Researcher?… ”

“Shall I sit for a competitive exam?”

“Shall I pursue education abroad? Or shall I pursue my education in India but in a different city?”

“How lucky I am to make all these decisions by myself. It can be a bit daunting at times but I am glad my Papa is there to guide me.”

“Somehow; even when the future is bleak to me now, he believes in me.”

“And I don’t see myself growing up as Aryabhatta or Ambani, but he still manages to see a bright future for me full of successes and happiness.”

“He has given me the freedom to make my own decisions. But when in a doubt, he shares his insightful experiences.”

“He is slowly working his way to make me independent. It is so different from the rest though.”

“You know, some of my friends (especially the girls) have their futures decided by parents and family. But thankfully, I could never relate to that.”

“Just see… So much going on in the late teens and even when he lives in another city right now, he is there for me!”

“He still knows what I want before I do.”

“He is away from family; working hard for all of us, but he never mentions it in any of the phone calls.”

“He always jokes around, tells me about the scrumptious meals he had for dinner (since I love food a lot), and everything else but stories about his own hard efforts.”

“I never addressed his long work hours, successful meetings and his career but he congratulates me, even for making an edible salad.”

“Thank you Papa for bearing with the mood swings of a teenage daughter. Thank you for loving me as your daughter and not as ‘not a son’. Thank you for teaching me some valuable lessons of life and providing me the platform to make my own decisions. Thank you for your endless efforts to give me the world I have now. Yes mum’s presence during these years was crucial but it all just wouldn’t have been the same without you, my Papa!”

Some more years later;

“Papa, when are you sending money into my account? I want it immediately. I am waiting!”

Few moments later, “Thank you Papa! Okay, watching a movie!”

 “Its Diwali tomorrow and I couldn’t get the confirmed seats on the train, Papa.”

A few minutes later, “Start Packing, your flight leaves in a few hours”

A few seconds later the realization hits that the flight ticket is super expensive to which my Papa has only two lines to say “I want you here. If you wanted a private jet, I would have arranged that as well”.

“And I believe him. In spite of the fact that the jet is way too farfetched, my Papa has magical powers and I wouldn’t be surprised if he presents me with the stars one day!!”

“With so much going on in a new city with new people, there is little time or will to introspect. I am so consumed in myself and my future that I cannot even sit and chat with him about his wishes for his future.”

“Yes, My success will make him happy. My happiness will make him happy. But the things that I talk about regarding the future are all about my foreign education, my travelling goals, my lifestyle dreams.”

“I somehow never asked him about his dreams for the future; what places he wants to travel, what kind of retired lifestyle does he foresee, what is the one thing that he could never buy or do, what thoughts does he have for me regarding my future… ”

“Not that I wasn’t open to talking about these before…But the conversations that we have had till now were somehow always dominated by my life and my well being.”

“I do feel in my early twenties now, that it is time we begin our conversation about his wishes.”

“He has smiled and kept his pain away from me for so long. It is time he starts to share and express even the gloomiest of all. And when he does so, I will make sure the smile stays on.”

“Thank you Papa for all the sacrifices you made for me. Thank you for literally serving the world as my oyster. Thank you for being there with me all this time. I stumbled a little in these years, but your presence in my life surely got me back on the right track. Thank you for always trusting me, Papa.”

Few more years pass by and today arrives;

“So here I am with some education and experience of my own! Hmm… Doesn’t make me smart enough to understand that how the hell did he learn to be such an amazing father!”

“No seriously, in future if I want my husband to become a father as brilliant as my Papa is, what should I tell the husband?”

“Is there like an Ashram or something that he needs to visit when I am with a child, or does he need to follow some Ayurvedic diet regime, or should he use some hypnotic tapes… He should let me know as I feel, my future child or any child for that matter, should have a father only if he is like my Papa!”

“I see myself as a secure, confident, content and happy individual because he is my father and I want the same for everyone who lands up on this earth! So Papa really needs to share his magic secret”

And some moments later; 

“After going through the various stages of life; now in my mid twenties, I can pretty much be called as an adult, I guess!”

“Although, there are miles to go on before I settle down personally and professionally; I think I am already realizing the efforts that are required to survive, especially when one has a family to take care of.”

All of this makes me want to convey to Papa that;

“Let me just take this opportunity to congratulate you for heading the family so beautifully, in all the good and tough times! And thank you for that, it is teaching me to become a strong and committed person.”

“I congratulate you for having a successful career in a field you are so passionate about. Thank you for that, it is teaching me perseverance and to have a zeal in life….”

“So many achievements that we may need to have a whole other ceremony to applaud all!!”

“So for now, for all of them, A big hearty Congrats!!”

“And A bigger Thank You!!”

And I will go on to tell you that

“As the years go by, I believe the thoughts have and would circle around the fact that I have an amazing father.  No letters, gifts or world tours would ever be enough to express my gratitude towards you. But still, I want you to wish, dream and express what you want for your own future. And it is not just about me working hard to make all your wishes come true, but it is more about the happiness that I will get with your smiles when your wishes are fulfilled. It isn’t too late now, start wishing and get your bucket list ready!”

 “So this Father’s Day; I present my thoughts to you with the biggest hug in the world to tell you that I love you, I am thankful to you, I will aspire to provide you with a life that perhaps you missed out on, while raising me; and I will be here for you just like you were there for me, forever!!”

I will sign off with this immutable thought,

“ I don’t know what kind of daughter I am to you but one thing that I am absolutely sure of is, that I love you with all my heart and no matter how many roles I have in the future… Aunty, Wife, Mother and even a Granny…I will always be your Baby Girl and you will always be my Amazing Papa!!”  

“Happy Father’s Day! Love You” 😀

“This father’s day, I am expressing my love towards my dad by participating in the #HugYourDad activity at BlogAdda in association with Vicks.”


I am writing for the #ShareTheLoad activity at in association withAriel.

A one year old baby girl dancing to the tunes of Kumar Sanu, while father records the talent show just to let the working mother know that her little one is doing fine and she shouldn’t worry for the household to go into a frenzy mode when she isn’t around… mother returns to a clean home and is greeted with warm smiles, hot food and little dancing diva on the television…

Now, isn’t the scenario symbolizing love, understanding and happiness! Well, let it be out now that this is a real life example of my life. And no, I am not the mother but the dancing baby who is now twenty five and so proud of her working parents who continue to unintentionally set a wonderful example for ‘Sharing the Load’….since 1990!! And trust me; the load has been physically, emotionally and financially demanding at times. But by sharing the lousiest as well as the easiest of loads, both the man and woman have strengthened the understanding and love for each other…!! (Well… verbally confronting such feelings to people may be a task for my parents as they are a shy breed… but try to find the cute factor when the two can’t talk romance!!)

So what is sharing the load??… Sharing responsibilities among men and women in a household isn’t a new age fad that requires a diploma to comprehend but it is more about nurturing the love and respect among members of a home.

It isn’t about set division of duties that makes a house operate but it is more about involving oneself to a relationship that builds and functions a home.

Furthermore, following the orthodox societal norms of fixating the women as homemakers and men as bread earners isn’t ‘sharing the load’ either but it is about voluntarily choosing to adopt roles in a household by mutually understanding and acknowledging the needs of one another….!!

For some, the concept of sharing responsibilities in a household may seem directed towards a middle income family or a home with working couple or say a home with no household helper (what many may refer to as maids, bai, bhaiya, dada, mama or maushii). But even in the most luxurious of lifestyles, sharing the load has its place since it is not only about finishing materialistic tasks like doing laundry or dusting the furniture but it is about strengthening relationships where the man and woman involve themselves in making household decisions and more importantly… committing time and contributing to such matters.

Now, some may have certain objections, excuses or scientific theories to disapprove the importance of ‘sharing the load’! Let this post list out some common instances;

‘My wife enjoys taking care of the house independently. She doesn’t like my interference. So I don’t participate in the chores and allow her to become independent. Aren’t I a supportive partner?’

Some may argue along similar lines that one is considered strong when he/ she works as an independent homemaker. But in the matters of family and its home, working independently and working alone do not necessarily mean the same every time. On one hand, where independent action can result in boosting the confidence and self esteem levels whereas on the other; working alone can be stressful, exhausting and depressing especially when there is no one to rely on even when there are other members in the household. It is only when everyone works together that the common goals and happiness can be realized. So even if one believes the other to enjoy ‘independent functioning’; correct yourself and ‘Share The Load’ by attendance… assistance… appreciation!

Let’s move on to a popular one now.

‘I just don’t know how to do all these chores. Women are anyway better in all the household worship. So I get the money to run everything while she takes care of the house and family.’

Many may assert that women are better when it comes to cooking, cleaning and caring… or that men do not have the innate ability to perform such tasks and they are much better in spurting money. Or some may even proclaim that women are best at being the emotional anchors whereas men are best as sturdy support systems. Well, these cannot be fully ignored as the society is built in such a way that both men and women have grown up to endorse such mindsets. Not going much into the social history; even if there is any truth to these statements, is it logical to pile on the load of household roles to a particular sex. Absolutely not! Just as women are encouraged to involve themselves in paid employment; men should be prompted to engage themselves in the chores… and that too since a young age. There isn’t anything feminine or disrespectful in utilizing the free time to maintain your own home. If anything, it is being responsible for your belongings and relationships. Now, this is logical. After all, the resume attributes of ‘having a drive to learn, enjoy new experiences, enthusiastic, team worker’ doesn’t go away when one is at home… do they?

And finally let’s head to the most typical excuse.

‘I don’t have the time for all this. And I just want to relax on the weekends.’

A popularly known thought ‘It’s all in the mind’ should serve as an apt reply to such statements. It is all about how one pictures household chores to be. It can be enjoyable if it is done with your partner, kids and family. Now, how can one make chores enjoyable? What does one get in the end? … Perhaps the examples below give you an insight!

  • Put Up Your Own Song On The Player Which Goes Something Like

    ‘With your Wipes… and your Broom… Burn the Calories… and get your Tidy Room!! Woop Woop !’ 

    (Wake Up The Artist In Yourself…..and Come Up With Better Lyrics Of Course!)

    Wouldn’t it be amazing to multitask the chores and exercise; which as a result gives you a fab body, amazing flexibility and a spotless house?… It surely would, right! So the next time, when you have some flab on you and filth on the home floors, forget the gym and running shoes…Switch on your mopping song, wipe, clean, sway, make this chore your workout and enjoy like never before…!!

  • Clean Clothes, Ariel Matic Fragrance, Him and Her… It’s The Time To Romance!!

    ‘Laundry Time Darling! Plenty Time To Catch Up…!’

    In today’s fast paced and busy world, there is little time to talk love. Well; if the time issues are for you too, don’t just sit up and ponder! Create situations for yourself. #ShareTheLoad by sharing the laundry time with your partner… This may be the cleanest and freshest atmosphere you have ever hoped for!

  • The Dish Time… My Family Time!!

‘Our family enjoys the dish time as we do it together. Daughter lays the dishes, I cut the vegetables to go in those dishes, the wife cooks and serves in it while the son cleans them up. This is our family time or what we call …the dish time!’ 

So what if one doesn’t understand cooking or cutting vegetables. One can #ShareTheLoad by assisting in chores he/ she is capable of learning and eventually doing.  It isn’t much of a rocket science… after all! By adopting such practices, not only will the family get some quality time but the kids would observe and learn the positives of ‘sharing the load’!

The examples above surely makes the benefits stronger than the negatives (if at all there are any) ….right? And if we really look into the concept… engaging in chores isn’t like another tedious job when you share and do it together… is it?

However; if one person is solely responsible for home chores for all the three hundred and sixty five days of every year, the stress alert will eventually shoot up. We all know that even a machine breaks down after repeated action over time and it needs external support to re-function. However sometimes, only with a slight twist of the screws… the machine starts working.

Similarly; ‘sharing the load’ is basically ‘twisting our screws’ to understand that every member of the household must participate in home chores as per their respective strengths, weaknesses and needs. One cannot just stand up some day to announce all the men of a family to be responsible for cooking in their homes. That may lead to an utter disaster and rampant diarrhea. An example of sharing the load could be when a husband doesn’t know the ABC of cooking but helps the wife in buying vegetables, laying down the table, serving or cleaning. Similarly, if a wife can’t fix the broken television wires, she can help the husband by calling the electrician to fix the same right away.  Discuss and realize who is good with walking the pet, teaching kids, rearranging closet, watering plants, washing clothes, moving furniture, mopping…. and the list is endless! Imagine an endless list of duties thrown on a single member of the household. No wonder, Ariel is making sure that it’s #ShareTheLoad campaigns reach every household!!

So, running a household involves a team work from it’s members, irrespective of sexes. It isn’t a moral right of just the women in all households to be responsible for all home chores. Anyone who calls the house his/ her home is accountable for the same. Once you commit to  #ShareTheLoad; notice the love, respect and trust blooming for you in your partner’s and family’s hearts.

And now, after all the moral talk…just one question… How are you sharing the load in your house…?